A Loving Response
Notes from Lance Shumake's sermon on Sunday, October 6, 2024.
Sermon text: Romans 12:9-21
John 13:34–35
[34] A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. [35] By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
1 John 4:19
We love because he first loved us.
Our love for others should be genuine
—discerning
“Therefore, real love is concerned about truth. Any love that is afraid to confront the beloved is not really love, but a selfish desire to be loved. This kind of selfish love is afraid to do what is right (toward God and the beloved) if it risks losing the beloved’s affection. It makes an idol out of the beloved. It says: I’ll do anything to keep him or her loving me! This is not loving the person. It is loving the love you get from the person.”
—Tim Keller, Romans 8-16 For You
—affectionate
—honoring
Philippians 2:3–4
[3] Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. [4] Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Our love for God should be fervent
—zealous service
—hopefully patient
Our love for others should be generous
—meeting needs
Acts 4:34–35
[34] There was not a needy person among them, for as many as were owners of lands or houses sold them and brought the proceeds of what was sold [35] and laid it at the apostles’ feet, and it was distributed to each as any had need.
—pursuing hospitality
Our love for enemies should be clear
—blessing instead of cursing
—serving instead of retaliating
We should examine ourselves for habits that undercut peace. If we take lighthearted gibes as insults, we can expect to be miserable. Let us rather pray: “Lord, help me put aside self-centered thoughts. Grant me thick skin and a tender heart and a memory that is porous enough to forget little slights. Help me never to think the worst of another person’s motives or to think, ‘He did that on purpose.’ ”
—Daniel M. Doriani, Romans
Luke 6:27-28
[27] “But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, [28] bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.
Discipleship Questions:
- How does God’s love for us help us show love to others?
- What does genuine love for others look like and how can we ensure our love is genuine?
- How can we exhibit discerning love to others? What are some examples from real life?
- What helps us to maintain zeal for God as we serve Him?
- In what ways can you show love to others through meeting needs and pursuing hospitality?
- What are some ways we can bless and serve people that might be considered our enemies?
- What are some specific examples from Jesus’ life that can help us love others?


