On Marriage: Ryan Lewis
"Six weeks into our small group, I realized that I was hiding."
January 2012 was the first time my wife and I personally experienced a ReEngage testimony. I remember whispering, “These people are nuts. You’re not supposed to share your junk like that - and especially not at church.” I was uncomfortable.
But on the flip side: I was captivated by the transparency of the people; I loved that.
Six weeks into our small group, I realized that I was hiding. After other couples had shared so much, I began to feel like a fake. I gave all of the r ight answers, but quickly realized I gave no answers that revealed how God was working in my life.
I will never forget when one of my small group facilitators asked if I was holding back because I felt that I needed to display perfection as a pastor. This convicted me to share. And I did.
I shared about my past history with alcohol, pornography, sex and divorce. I shared my story of brokenness and despair that led to redemption in Christ in 2003.
The group quickly surrounded me with love, and I knew something was different about this. I realized that the weight I had been carrying by trying to hide my past kept me from fully understanding gospel community. I didn’t know what I didn’t know.
In Christ we are fully known and fully loved by God. Jesus demonstrated his love us for in that while we were sinners he died for us and now lives for us (Romans 5:8).
Gospel community follows this model to demonstrate His love for others in fully known community—a safe place where people can truly be who they are in Christ.
Are you intrigued by this kind of community and transparency? I would love for you and your spouse to join me during our next ReEngage series.
Message me for details.
- Ryan Lewis
( Ryan N Elizabeth Lewis
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