The Unforgiving Servant

Kate Stevens • August 4, 2021

Summary of sermon on Matthew 18:21-35 from Scott Sutton.

Matthew 18 is intentionally relational, and God cares how we treat each other.  It is because of this that we are not allowed to respond to sin however we want. Likewise, we are not allowed to respond to repentance however we want.


Observations


(1) After verse 21 we see that Jesus is answering the question, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me and I forgive him?”


You can define forgiveness as to let go, to let alone, to let be, not to discuss now, to give up a debt…


(2) Jesus’ answer to Peter’s question is that you’re never allowed to withhold forgiveness.


The servant in the parable owes an insurmountable amount of money to the King, but the King forgave the debt. The servant then goes out to choke another servant who owes a much smaller amount.


The focus here in 23-31 needs to be on the marvelous mercy of the King more than the wickedness of the servant.


(3) The master’s forgiveness was lavish


He didn’t simply give the servant more time to repay his debt. Rather, he paid it in full! Upon finding the debt of his servant and hearing the servant’s plea, the master spared his wife, his children, and had “pity” for the servant.


(4) The master’s expectation was that his servant would have had mercy on his fellow servant


The servant should have laid down the role of punisher and judge (v. 33).


(5)  The unforgiving servant was met by an unforgiving master


That forgiven debt is now his responsibility to be paid in full. The unforgiveness ruined the servant’s life.


Verse 35 makes the transition from asking what the text says, to what it says to us… “So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart.”


This is a gospel story—
Creation, Fall, Redemption, Glorification.


Our world and humanity once was perfect but because of sin we all obtained a debt we could not pay or earn enough to settle. But because of Jesus our debt is paid in full when we place our faith in him. It is a lavish forgiveness, far surpassing anything we could ever understand. And it is the way we live our lives that is proof of faithfulness or faithlessness. 


Applications


(1) The forgiveness we give will prove the forgiveness we have received

There is a stout warning here to pay attention to.  We must extend mercy in the way that we have received mercy. 


(2) An unforgiving servant will be met by an unforgiving Master


We cannot trust ourselves to be a judge or punisher, but rather—we are to have a forgiving heart to prove that we understand the forgiveness that has been extended to us.


(3) Nobody has to earn your forgiveness


1 Peter 3:9 says that we are to repay evil for evil. We are to bless so that we may obtain a blessing.


1 Peter 4:19 says that when we suffer we are to entrust our souls to a faithful Creator while doing good.


These are counter-cultural! If we do believe that love covers a multitude of sins, then not everyone needs to know when we are offended or hurt.


(4) Unforgiveness will never bring joy


We can suffer all sorts of wrong because we know the forgiveness that has been extended to us—that is what will bring true joy.


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